Google Gemini asked me: “๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต’๐ด ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ด๐ต ๐ฅ๐ช๐ด๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐ค๐ต ๐ด๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ญ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ง๐ณ๐ฐ๐ฎ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ค๐ฉ๐ช๐ญ๐ฅ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฅ? ๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ข๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ต๐บ ๐ธ๐ข๐ด ๐ข๐ด๐ด๐ฐ๐ค๐ช๐ข๐ต๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ ๐ช๐ต?”
The smell of Macdonald’s shaker fries, and takeaway dinners.
I juggled academics and competing for Singapore and schools as a Table Tennis player.
From when I was 7 to 18 years old, my daily schedule was:
6am: Wake up
7am: Reach school
2pm: Finish school
3pm-6pm: Do homework, read books, wait for dad to fetch me to trainings
6pm-6.30pm: Takeaway dinners in the car. Sometimes Macs. I still remember the sound of shaking my fries in the car while dad weaves through heavy traffic.
7pm-9.30pm: Table Tennis training, and very often, physical training (i.e. drills, runs, strength training)
10pm: Reach home, shower
10.30pm-12midnight: Homework
Rinse and repeat.
The Macdonald’s meal was my little indulgence in a regimented childhood and adolescence.
I learned responsibility, conscientiousness, discipline and perseverance through my sporting career. I strove for and prided myself for excellence in my sport.
These I carried into my tertiary education and career, always striving to be and do the best I can.
Yet, that tipped the scale into an unhealthy emphasis on perfectionism and constantly feeling I was not good enough, not doing enough. And worse still? That others were not doing enough if they didn’t match up to my unreasonable expectations of excellence.
It took several years of my adulthood to clearly see the distinctions between my self-worth and my output / competence in something + that I was projecting onto others.
That got me to practise becoming better at tenderness, compassion, and holding lightness in the pursuit of excellence.
Being coached by others and myself helped me with that.
And now at Dasein Partners, I’m passionate to coach others to discover what wholehearted empowerment can be and feel like for them.
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